The Nine Deadly Truths
“On the other hand, success is quieter and personal. When you achieve something, you start to feel a sense of satisfaction, fulfillment, and pride. You experience these feelings more privately. Others can't know the amount of hard work, dedication, and sacrifices one has made to achieve success.”
Beware of the deadly nine truths, those that lurk in the shadows of life. Some can be seen with the naked eye. And some dwell in the murky waters of life. Everyone lives their lives according to these truths with or without the knowledge of their existence. They can be seen in our everyday society today through social media, school, the highschool life, relationships, and more. But the moral of the story is that they're out there. And reading this will open that third eye and allow you to see them as clear as crystal.
Nobody is real in the world, everyone has a dual face
What does it mean? Well in life, this world, and this day-in-age, people have two faces. Meaning one portrays what they want people to see. The face they put on in society to mask themselves in ways where people see them as positive, caring, and loving people. Whilst the other reveals who they truly are, and their true colors, the good and bad. When we join in communities or large crowds, we keep our thoughts to ourselves while we try to figure out the social dynamics. No one wants to show how weird they are from the start. This is a natural self-defense reaction we are all born with.
I believe this to be true because it can be seen in everyday scenarios, such as a bully who wears a face that makes them believe they aren't afraid of anyone, which leads them to terrorize and patronize people for their enjoyment. But at home, they will act like they are this perfect kid with no faults or sins. Or for instance, no offense intended to anyone, sexuality. For those who've experienced this know they've at times had to hide or mask their sexuality in public, potentially for their own safety.
People respect the money, not the person
In this society some people, not all, have standards that are based on money. When you think about race, think about how white people were not only treated better than other races because of skin color, but also wealth – wealth that they also made by using us other races.
People value money over the person because they know they will get things from them in return, but not really because of love nor do they value their existence. In this world, wealth is a priority over love. People feel that money buys happiness. Money is essential for meeting our basic needs such as food, shelter, and clothing. Without money, it is impossible to obtain the things we need to survive. But mainly without money, it's impossible to obtain what we want. And that's a fear people try to avoid.
The person you love the most will hurt you the most
People say that love is the strongest, most powerful emotion in the world. When you love something unconditionally it is a powerful force that can bring immense joy and happiness into one's life. And when things like that matter to you the most, it's inevitable that if they do things that might hurt you. It is positive that action will leave a mark. That may or may not tear you apart. Love equals sacrifice and when you sacrifice something to love, you trade a piece of yourself.
When you are happy, you enjoy the music, but when you are sad, you understand the lyrics
This saying refers to the emotional connection we experience using music. For example when we are happy or in other words experiencing positive emotions, we enjoy the rhythm and melody of the song. But, in these moments, we are oblivious and ignorant to deeper meaning all together. However, when we are sad or experiencing negative emotions, we start to deeply connect with the words and themes expressed in the song. We start to resonate with our own feelings and start to feel a sense of empathy. We find comfort in the lyrics, feeling understood and less alone in our emotions. Because when it's time you know the tones be hitting.
In life two things define you, your patience when you have nothing and your attitude when you have everything
I believe in life there are two key qualities you need to look for in yourself: your patience and your attitude. The part of the saying when it says “Patience when you have nothing” is basically talking about how you handle difficult circumstances when you have very little. How you face challenges defines your character. Exhibiting patience during tough times demonstrates resilience, determination, and the ability to endure without losing hope and giving up. For myself I believe the words can't and never, or the phrase “I can't do something” do not exist in my dictionary. I believe whatever I put my mind to; I believe I can succeed. My mama told me that.
Part two of the saying is “Attitude when you have everything.” This means how you carry yourself when you have success, which highlights the significance of your attitude. It also suggests your attitude and how you treat others in this moment. Your behavior and outlook on life when you're prosperous also shapes your character. This can be seen in the traits of humility, gratitude, and moral strength.
Comparison is the thief of joy; focus on your journey and accomplishments
This saying means when you constantly measure yourself, it diminishes your happiness and satisfaction of your own life and deeds. When you compare yourself to others, whether through success, possession, appearance, or any aspect of life in that matter, it can lead to you feeling inadequate, envy, and dissatisfaction. Prolonging you from accomplishing your own goals.
Instead of being worried about other people's lives, focus on your own journey and recognize your own accomplishments and goals. A homeless man once said to me, “In this day and age, everyone is in a hurry, I don't know where they are going, but when they get there they're gonna be sorry. The faster you try to get there like everyone else, that money, that career. The faster you're gonna figure out it wasn't about getting the money. Man, it was about the journey, it was not the destination. Because you were in a hurry to get there, to come up, to be the best there ever was. And when you do achieve everything. You're gonna feel the most discouraged when you're there, than when you started. Don't be like everyone else. Be different.” By acknowledging and appreciating yourself, your growth, your progress, and your achievements, you start to get a sense of self-empowerment. Fulfillment and contentment in your life. Your mindset starts to shift allowing you to celebrate your accomplishments without being overshadowed by the comparison of others.
Failure slaps you in public, success hugs you in private
The saying “Failure slaps you in public, success hugs you in private” suggests that when someone fails at something, they are more likely to fail in the eyes of others. But when you succeed, it is something you endure alone, not with anyone else. When someone fails, along comes creeping criticism, accompanied by embarrassment and disappointment. For instance, think of these feelings as little devils sitting on your shoulder. They set you up into doing things that are not in your best interest. Failure can be humiliating, feeling like a slap in your face. These emotions feed off your failure. Especially in public for all to see.
On the other hand, success is quieter and personal. When you achieve something, you start to feel a sense of satisfaction, fulfillment, and pride. You experience these feelings more privately. Others can't know the amount of hard work, dedication, and sacrifices one has made to achieve success. Therefore the saying entails that failure is more apparent and public, while success is more internal and private. That being said it reminds us that both failure and success is part of the journey to life. Remember that failure may be more visible but success is felt on a personal level and that's more important.
Time doesn't heal everything, it teaches you how to live with the pain
In my life I've come to believe time really doesn't heal everything, but you do learn to dwell with the pain you have endured. Time does lessen the intensity of emotional or physical pain, but it doesn't make you forget entirely. It can't erase what has been done. But it does teach us how to cope or adapt to the pain. For example when you lose someone you love. Do really forget about the time they were there. When you can breathe the air, they breathe. Smell their scent and have a conversation with them. Time develops resilience, and teaches us to navigate our way despite the presence of pain. Time is the process in which one heals, learning to live with and manage the pain, except expecting it to disappear.
Trust means everything, but when its broken, sorry means nothing
For all who know, this saying pertains to the importance of truthfulness and integrity in relationships. We as human beings believe that honesty and transparency are the fundamental bricks to building a healthy relationship. Which leads to trust. But when that trust is broken, saying sorry is not enough to repair the damage dishonesty and deception have created. Making the foundation crumble. The saying highlights the idea, apologies start to lose their meaning or worth without the support of genuine remorse and commitment to change. Because I believe in order for change to happen, you must be the change. Trust is earned not given, don't take it for granted. It will ruin you.